“The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 12:12
We have all been thrown away at some point in our life, either by a job, a friend, or a spouse. When I say “thrown away” I mean we have all been left, let go, deemed by someone as being no longer necessary, and the feeling that results from being “thrown away” is hurt. We are all familiar with the term “hurting people, hurt people”, so it is important to realize that when we have been wounded by someone not to turn our hurt onto someone else and throw them away.
Some people are in our life for a season and others are there for a lifetime, deciding who stays in your life and who goes can be daunting and difficult, but one easy way to determine who stays and who goes is too see who is giving (improving, motivating, encouraging) to you and who is subtracting (taking away, hurting, limiting) from you. If someone is taking more than they are giving then that is a relationship you might want to reevaluate.
God made it clear in his word that we are all one body in Christ. Romans 12:5-8 states:
“… so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. 6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. 7 If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; 8 if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.”
God made each and every one of us with different gifts and abilities so that we may learn to live and co-operate with one another. When you are rude, indifferent, and mean to people you are limiting your blessings, and when you “throw people away” you are blocking your blessings because promotion (increase, favor, direction) comes from God, but often through people.
So, if there is an unhealthy relationship in your life, understand that some people were only meant to be in your life for a season but before eliminating that relationship do an evaluation and if the person is taking more than they are giving then that might be a relationship you need to eliminate. But if you have been thrown away, forgive the person that hurt you and move on. If you have thrown someone away, reach out to them, make amends, and let them know you are sorry.